Friday, September 25, 2020

Friday Favorites

Somehow, this is the last Friday in September, which is absolutely wild to me. I've been feeling pretty scattered lately, and so I'm trying to get things back on track and feel a little bit more in control. I'm trying to be better about sleeping, about staying on top of my inbox and my calendar... I feel so much better in my life when I have a handle on things. Fingers crossed that I keep this up!

ONE - Marty and Ruth Bader Ginsburg's Love Story
This is such a touching tribute to Marty Ginsburg and Ruth Bader Ginsburg's relationship. Reading about his complete support for her and her career (especially during a time when this was less common) is so touching.

TWO - GBBO is Back!
The Great British Bake-Off is one of the rare competition shows that never actually becomes competitive - the cooks and so friendly and so supportive of each other. It'll be interesting to see how they adapted to filming during the pandemic, but a dose of happy TV is exactly what I think we all need right now.

THREE - New Coffee Mug
I needed something that would keep my coffee warm while I was working outside, and this has worked perfectly. It's super insulated but not too heavy for me to lift, and it keeps my coffee nice and toasty, so I stay warm too. It's also great for cocktails and keeping things chilled.

FOUR - Schitt's Creek Emmy Wins
I love Schitt's Creek so, so much. Just like GBBO, it's a show that's fundamentally about happiness and joy. I definitely watch my share of dark shows, and snarky ones, but something about Schitt's Creek is just so special.

FIVE - This is Paris Documentary
I read about this on Carly's blog and was convinced to watch it. I didn't really follow Paris Hilton growing up (I've never seen an episode of The Simple Life), but it was really interesting to watch, and to see how (like so many other people!) the difference between Paris Hilton the person and Paris Hilton the brand.

Wednesday, September 23, 2020

Ebbs and Flows

 I don't know about you, but I've been feeling a bit uninspired lately. I think partially, it's always something that happens for me this time of year... I'm such a summer person that I get sad when I can feel it coming to an end. But this year, things feel like they're on a whole different scale. 


While it felt strange to not take any trips or vacations this year, on the whole, the summer felt like a bit of a reprieve from the pandemic. Even though I still am staying at home, the ability to just spend a lot of time outside and feel that fresh air kept me from feeling like I am "trapped" in my house. Being able to work outside, eat outside, read outside... it all made things feel much less claustrophobic. Plus, I had a few (very) socially distanced yard visits, and it was unbelievably nice to see people that I don't live with.

But all I can think about - and all that I try to stop thinking about - is what the winter is going to be like, and how I'm going to find a way to cope. We had a fairly mild winter last year, and by March when the pandemic hit here, there were already more days than not that I could spend at least some time outside. But I know that won't be the case for this whole winter, and I'm trying to figure out how to get ready for that, mentally.

It feels like the last 6 months have been filled with ebbs and flows - days where things don't seem so awful, and days where it seems like things can't possibly continue the way that they have been. On the whole, I feel like I've been dealing with everything pretty well... but then a tiny part of me wonders if this means that the other shoe is going to drop at some point, so to speak.

I just keep reminding myself that the pandemic (or any huge life disruption, really) is bound to have highs and lows... and to focus on enjoying the highs while they're happening, rather than worrying about when the lows are going to come. Since I'm thinking about all of this right now, I thought maybe some of you might be, too. It seemed like the right time to check in with all of you.

How are you all doing? Anyone else feeling like I am?

Tuesday, September 22, 2020

Show You Vote

I've loved all of the different things I've come across emblazoned with the reminder to "vote." Obviously, voting is incredibly important - you can click here for a state-by-state list of voter registration deadlines and more information about how to register. I think it's also more stylish than every to show that you plan to vote in November! So I pulled together my favorite things I've found to show how politically engaged you are.


ONE - Mustard Vote Tee
The reaction that I got to this t-shirt when I posted it a few weeks ago is actually what inspired me to do this post! I love how much you all loved the representation in the message.


TWO - Vote Mask
Of course - it wouldn't be 2020 if there wasn't a mask on the list! I love the simplicity of the design coupled with the power of the message - and I love that they're doing it in suffragette white, too! 

THREE - Vote Necklace
I know that I've shared this before, but I had to include it again here. I love jewelry that sends a message, and this is the perfect message to send.

FOUR - Vote Tote
I have such a thing for tote bags - I can't resist picking up a cute one when I see it. And this one is definitely a cute, fun one! It's another collaboration with When We All Vote (like the necklace is, too), and I love how many companies are teaming up to spread the word to vote!

FIVE - Vote Crop
There's nothing comfier than a crop top when you're hanging out around the house - more fitting right now than ever!


SIX - Vote Earrings
This shop donates 75% of their profits back to their foundation which works to create better quality of life for people with Alzheimer's and their caregivers, which I think is really amazing. They're handmade in Virginia Beach, and such a fun accessory!

Monday, September 21, 2020

Cozy in (more) Cashmere

 It was only a few years ago that I understood why everyone loved cashmere so much, and now I am basically fully obsessed. It's so hard for me to resist when I see a cute cashmere sweater! They're so soft and lightweight and warm and cozy all at the same time.


So of course, when I got an e-mail from Everlane about their new short-sleeved cashmere sweater, I knew that I had to get one. I'm already a big fan of their long-sleeved cashmere, so it was kind of a no-brainer for me. I love that Everlane's sweaters typically fit me really well, their prices are reasonable, and the quality is really nice. Plus, I'm really trying hard to buy less clothes, but better quality ones - and I really appreciate Everlane's commitment to transparency and ethical production. The clothes that I've bought from them in the past have held up really well over the years.

The cashmere tee is no exception! The fit is perfect (I'm wearing the XXS), and I love the bright, bold color. It's not quite as soft as the J. Crew one (in this post), but it's a bit more substantial, so I know it'll be great as the temperatures continue to dip. It's absolutely still comfortable, and doesn't look slouchy but isn't too fitted, either. It's just as perfect for working (whether at home or in the office) as it is lounging on the weekend. 

Especially since I'm spending so much (well... all) of my time at home right now, it's so important to me that I buy clothes that don't just work in one specific setting, but rather things that I'll get lots of wear out of. This cashmere tee totally fits the bill for me, and I think it would for you, too!

Friday, September 18, 2020

Friday Favorites

It has been unbelievably nice here this week, and I'm squeezing in lots of time with my deck serving as my office (the sky behind me creates a really pretty Zoom background)! Other than that, not much going on here - it was a relatively quiet and peaceful week in my life. It's been really nice to not have classes to worry about right now, too. It still feels strange (but great!) to know that there are no more papers or problem sets or exams in my life right now.


On to the favorites!

ONE - Hold Still Exhibit
This was a "community project" - an exhibition, headed by the Duchess of Cambridge and housed at the National Portrait Gallery, about what life was like in the UK during the lockdown phase of the pandemic. It's an incredibly poignant exhibition, and a glimpse into the lives of a diverse group of people.


TWO - Ingrid Michaelson and Lauren Ridloff Duet
This is an absolutely beautiful performance - a duet between Ingrid Michaelson and Lauren Ridloff (a deaf actress) where they perform a song from Dear Evan Hansen. Not only is the song itself stunning, but the story behind choosing the sign to accompany the titular lyrics ("You Will Be Found") is interesting, too.


THREE - Cute but Comfy Dress
The minute I saw this dress, I knew I had to order it. I love that the material looks "fancy" and luxe but the cut of the dress definitely errs on the side on comfort. I feel like that's my 2020 vibe in a nutshell!
Bonus: Use code BRCARDFF for 50% off everything!

FOUR - Voting as a "High-Risk" Person
Alice Wong is one of my favorite activists. I think she writes really powerfully here about an incredibly important issue - voting this year as a disabled person, where it feels like vote-by-mail is constantly under threat. It's also a great explanation about voting inaccessibility in general.


FIVE - Meghan, Duchess of Sussex and Gloria Steinem
One more about voting! I loved reading this conversation between Meghan Markle and Gloria Steinem. There are some really interesting insights, and I especially loved Gloria's statement that "If you don’t vote you don’t exist. It’s the only place where we are all equal: in the voting booth."



Tuesday, September 15, 2020

An Easier Time, Period

Before we get into today's post, I want to say off the bat - I'm going to be talking about periods today. They're a normal part of life, and I don't think it should be awkward, but if it's something that makes you uncomfortable reading about, you can stop now and come back on Friday for the usual Friday Favorites post.

For as long as I can remember, my periods have been irregular. It's actually something that's gotten slightly better as I've gotten older, but they're often between a few days to a week off in either direction. I track them with the Clue app and built-in Health app on my iPhone so that I have a general idea when it's coming, but the window is fairly big. This isn't a huge deal for me in my life right now, but it does mean that it makes it difficult for me to really prepare for my period.


When I say prepare, I mean logistically, because having a period as a disabled woman can be a bit tricky. I can't use the bathroom by myself, and because of how tricky it can be for me to balance on a toilet out in public, trying to replace a pad in the middle of the day is not easy. And if my period ends up being a little earlier than I expected, it can be (literally) messy trying to put a pad on. Tampons are a whole other story, because again - I can't insert it by myself!

Even at home it can be challenging. Wearing a pad and sitting on it all the time can feel a bit like wearing a diaper - it's not ideal. And since it takes some maneuvering to get me comfortably positioned in my chair, there's always the chance that the pad will end up shifting a little bit and not covering everywhere that it needs to. The same thing happens overnight, too - it takes a bit of work for me to find a comfortable way to sleep, and things get shifted just enough that I wake up to a stain on my sheets.

Enter Thinx period underwear. I'm not really sure why it took me this long to try out a pair of period underwear, but I'm so glad that I did. They're so much more comfortable than wearing a pad, and definitely easier than wearing a tampon. I was really impressed, too, that there was absolutely no leakage at all, even when I wore them all night long. And you don't have to do anything special to clean them - just throw them in the washing machine!

I got the organic cotton bikini style, but there are so many different options if that's not your preference. Since I'm so petite, finding underwear that are small enough can be challenging - espsecially for period underwear, when you want to make sure they fit well! Thinx has sizes from XXS to 3XL, which is a great range, and the XXS fit me perfectly. 

Obviously, I think these underwear are great for someone like me, with a disability, but I also think anyone would love them. They're convenient and comfortable, and you don't have to worry about running out of a tampon or pad and needing to borrow one from a stranger! And unlike a tampon, there's no harm to wearing them a day or two before your period when you think it's coming soon but you're not exactly sure what day. Everyone, disabled or not, has had at least one incident with an unfortunate period stain, whether it's on sheets or clothes, and these underwear make that one less thing that you need to worry about. They've made my pandemic periods at least a little more tolerable, and I think they'll do the same for yours, too.

Fall Wish List

 Right now, I'm in search of what I'm calling "Zoom shirts" for fall. Tops that are comfortable enough to wear all day while I'm working, that look nice on Zoom for any meetings that pop up.... and that can be paired with sweatpants or leggings on the bottom with no one else knowing! 


For me, this mostly takes the form of lightweight, cozy sweaters. I've been doing quite a bit of online browsing lately (and some purchasing, too!) and am sharing my favorites that I have my eye on.

Also - use code FALLFAVES at J. Crew to get 35% off your purchase!